One of my very first mentors was brilliant at seeing the magnificence and potential in her clients. She used to say, “I will hold you as powerful, no matter what, even when you can’t.” And she did. We all felt this from her and her team. Talk about lifting us up!
Who do you have in your life that sees your magnificence and reflects it back to you, especially when you can’t see it?
A parent or grandparent? Favorite aunt or uncle? A mentor or coach? Your bestie?
Do you lean in and listen when she tells you that you are amazing, awesome, wonderful, powerful, creative, smart…
Or do you lean out and push the compliment away?
I used to be that woman who would duck and cover, blush or turn away when someone complimented me. I did not own my magnificence. I still have moments when I want to run and hide my light from the world, to turn away from the praise.
But mostly I just smile and say thank you. Even when I don’t feel like it.
Sometimes I get a tremendous gift like earlier this summer when I was praising my son for the awesome work he is doing at his first “real” summer job – not working for mom and dad. He turned to me, and said it was because he’d had such awesome teachers in me and his dad.
It would have been easy to go into the story of how I was too busy, traveled too much, too stressed out to really pay attention or moved him halfway across the country at a tender age. I could have judged myself for all the moments I felt like a bad mom. I make no claims to being perfect or ever being “SuperMom” but I do think Brad and I did a damn fine job of raising our kids. So in that moment, I just smiled and hugged him and said, “Thank you.” Compliments from a 19-year-old boy don’t come that often 🙂
If you are doubting yourself today, I want you to take this in. Pause, take a breath.
I SEE YOUR MAGNIFICENCE.
Remember the world needs you, your family and friends need you. Shine on!
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